Recently Musings of A Christian Psychologist psoetd a list of questions that included the question, "How can I encourage my client to accept/respect their body (and its limits) right now?." I don't know the answer to that. My daughter lost it when I used the word disabled, differently abled, whatever. But, I did continue to tell her that because of prenatal exposure to alcohol she was impulsive and had poor judgment. I told her she would need help to plan, consider consequences and make choices. She needed her time structured so that there was less of an opportunity to be in situations where she would be vulnerable. She needed to select her peer group carefully.You know our outcome. But, could I have lived with treating her as if she had no deficits? I don't think I could have. What I could do, I did. I tied her consequences to her choices. I set limits that were appropriate for her abilities. I was rewarded with rages, professionals who questioned my parenting ability, sleepless nights... and an adult daughter who is in jail. I just watched Temple Grandin's movie too... fascinating.
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